Things people said when I had cancer


‘I am so, so sorry.’

‘You’re going to be fine.’

‘Fight it, you know you’re a fighter.’

‘Are we going to be poor, Dad?’

‘Is there anything we can do? Anything?

‘It’s not like you had much hair to lose anyway.’

‘Haven’t you got a lovely shaped head?’

‘High-grade, yes.’

‘Not the best Valentine’s present ever.’

‘You are going to feel quite poorly.’

‘Have you any undealt-with anger?’

‘I wouldn’t call covering for you fun.’

‘Hello, cancer-boy!’

‘Shit happens.’



Love for Now




  1. “Hello cancer-boy!” I actually love this one. Andrew was teasing our son about wanting to take a day off school because he had a bad cold and kept calling him “Sick Note.” Johnny came back with “I don’t know why you’re calling me Sick Note – you’re the one with cancer!”. It felt fantastic to laugh. Great post/poem. – J xx

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      1. That is so kind of you to say, Josephine. If I’m honest I don’t think I do realise it, because that would be to spend valuable energy second guessing what to say. Nevertheless, comments like yours lift me more than I can say, and I am deeply grateful for them. A

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  2. Wow this is breath taking. I know people who have had cancer, or currently do and I never stop to think of what others may say. Your friends and family change the way they speak to you when you are sick, but to see that may not have happened to you, shows what an amazing group of people you are surrounded by.

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    1. Thank you for your kind comment. Even now, when friends of mine are diagnosed with cancer, I still find it hard to know what to say, even though I have been through it. But talking always helps. Always.


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