I’m talking about real influence now
–Raymond Carver
This is the first in a new series of blog posts about people to whom I owe a debt of gratitude. They are for poets, teachers and friends (sometimes all three). Some I know well and have spent large parts of my life with. Some I barely know at all and have met only in passing. What they all have in common is the lasting influence for good they have had on my life.
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In the summer of 1986, when he was poetry editor of New Statesman and not long after Writing Home had been published, I sent Hugo Williams Every Poem I Had Ever Written. I was unemployed and still living at home, the chief subjects of the poems I sent to him.
I thought I might be in with a chance because Williams had written about exactly the same thing: ‘My father said ‘WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?”
But I knew nothing of the rules of the poetry game. I did not know you were only supposed to send a maximum of six poems to an editor at one time. I did not know that you needed to include a stamped addressed envelope. (I suppose I imagined the New Statesman was made of money.) I had not bought Peter Finch’s How to Publish Your Poetry. I had not even heard of him.
It goes without saying, regardless of their quality, my poems should have gone straight into the bin. Instead, Hugo Williams wrote back to me to say he wanted to take two of my poems, and next time please could I not send so many poems and include a sae?
Seamus Heaney famously compared receiving an invitation from Charles Monteith at Faber and Faber to hearing ‘from God the Father’. This was my God the Father moment. And it involved poetry. And even a tiny bit of money. I still pinch myself when I think about it, an act of kindness and grace which I did not deserve and for which I will never stop being grateful.
As Raymond Carver wrote, I felt his acceptance was ‘casually, generously given to me. Nothing remotely approaching that moment has happened since.’
Anthony Wilson 
Oh, very touching. Thank you!
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Thank you Jacqueline -high praise indeed.
Good wishes as ever
Anthony
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Anthony, your idea to write a series about the people who influenced your work one way or another is like honey from the hive and I look forward to reading every one of them. As I guess you already know, Raymond Carver would be on my list and William Stafford, too, whom I had the great pleasure of knowing. Naomi Shihab Nye, who was later one of Stafford’s proteges and a teacher/poet whose work means a lot to me, would be there, too. My own list, like yours, goes on. As our lists should. We do not do this work alone in the dark. All best to you…Molly
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Thank you so much Molly.
I’m glad you resonate with this idea.
There are going to be some of the people you’d expect, but others you might not.
I’m delighted to come across Naomi Shihab Nye -not having done so before: which book would you recommend as a good starting place?
We are not alone in the dark. Yes!
As ever with best wishes
Anthony
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Anthony…I’d start with Naomi’s collection Words Under the Words and I’d start with her poem “The Art of Disappearing.” When he interviewed her for his public television series on poets, Bill Moyers said this poem changed his life. It changed mine, too.
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Hello Molly. My copy of Words Under the Words has just arrived. You are right, The Art of Disappearing is amazing. It resonates completely with my ‘I am at a thing’ posts -thank you so much for sharing it with me.
As ever
Anthony
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Hello Molly. Thank you so much for this. I will certainly chase this up! As ever with humble thanks
Anthony
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Thanks Anthony. Something so right in honouring the lamplighters in a life. Regards from Thom at the immortal jukebox. I’ll be returning.
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Thank you so much for stopping by! Good wishes, Anthony
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